How to find a partner?

The best way to find a partner is to identify the values that are important to you. If you are not sure what values are are important, you can identify them by looking at your emotional response to events and people. You will see a pattern in the activities you pursue, the things you dislike. Generally the stronger the feeling, the more fundamental the value being expressed, appreciated or repudiated. But it also depends on the context, on the significance of the event or person to you.
There is no question that you will find more compatible partners if you know yourself, so invest time in understanding yourself more. The best way of learning more about yourself is to read the types of books that discuss personal development issues. It might be psychology, philosophy or self improvement books. More important than reading is reflecting on what one has read, to the point of critically appraising it. Ask yourslef is there another possibility that might explain the events in your life.
I believe we should never substitute our personal experience for others because people have a dreadful habit of making flaws. If you accept others interpretation of events, you are dropping the context, that is other pertinent information not conveyed that is important to rendering the judgement.
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Andrew Sheldon www.sheldonthinks.com